Thursday, March 24, 2011

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Are you a Rude Blog Hopper?

I recently realized how rude I was being while blog hopping. Now let me say I normally don't do this, but this time I was in a hurry, ready to walk out the door, so my comment was a bit hurried while visiting a person's blog for the first time.

Normally, I read the person's post before I comment letting them know that I am following them and how they can follow me back, and I usually always mention something in their current post. This time, I scanned thru all the posts on this person's main page, found nothing interesting to comment on, as many blogs tend to be about coupons, or sales, or well not personal at all. I sometimes don't know how to relate to blogs like that, since I tend to read personal stories. I don't get into deal blogs much, as there is no grit to them. Anyway I scanned thru and thought this was that kind of blog, but I proceeded to follow, and leave a comment telling this person where they could follow back.

My comment was short and sweet! "Hi I found you at such and such blog hop, I would love for you to follow back." Well this comment was greeted by an email about how this person was deleting my comment since it did not relate to the post at hand. The post at hand was a topic on fashion trends of which honestly, since I don't leave my house except for on the weekends to run errands and go to church, I really don't care much about, maybe I will when I enter the 9-5 work day again. But her point was correct. How many people have left you comments on a heartfelt blog post you took the time to write, and all they say is "Hey, I'm following you, follow back"? They don't read the post, they are just seeking a follower. Its happened to me, I'm sure its happened to you.

There is nothing wrong with seeking a follower, but I say do it with tact. Do it mentioning something in their current blog post, then tell them where they can follow you back. Yes we all want to be followed, but we don't just blog to have no one read what we have written do we? So I say lets get back to some internet etiquette and leave some meaningful comments when we blog hop.

Now I do have to say that if you are a frequent blog hopper, you do it all the time or every day, please set aside a dedicated post for someone to just pop in and say, "hey I'm following you, I will come back and read your blog when I have the opportunity". If you can't set aside a designated post, make a page that is separate from your blog posts just for collecting comments from people who are new followers. I think doing that will help blog hoppers feel more welcome, and will also help make sure that only "meaningful comments" are left on posts.

Do you have any other blog hopping pet peeves, or advice?
Heather



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103 comments :

TexaGermaNadian said...

I totally agree with you on this one. I can't stand the hops that have you going from one useless coupon site to another. But at the same time, even if someone has left me a "follow me, now follow you" kind of thing, I would never be rude back to them. That was a bit tasteless of this person. I don't play the whole follow me and I'll follow you game (as I know you don't either, like you said, it was a hasty post), but some people do. They know I will not come back and follow them, and since they have no idea who I am or what I write about, I could care less. I'll just chalk it up to one more follower!
I am sorry she was such a meanie. Forget her, and just keep posting on your great blog! BTW, I am having a hop tomorrow and Saturday that specifically doesn't include coupon/ad sites. Would love for you and one of your stories to stop by! :)

Hockey Wife Tales said...

I am with you. I never will ask for a follow back when I leave a comment, as I don't like it when I am on the receiving end. Once in a while I will give them a link...only if my post relates to their post. I figure, if they want to see my blog...they will click on my icon and see it that way. I would never want a follow just because of the "I follow you, you follow me." idea. I want people who actually want to see what I have to say.

I too am not a fan of coupon, review and giveaway blogs....so I never follow those!

One last thing...I always like to look at t he about me section...this gives a good feel for the blogger I am reading about.

Thanks for the great post!

Cheers!

Katie said...

This is a great post! I was actually going to stop doing blog hops altogether (even made a post on SITS about it) When I realized that genuine bloggers (you included!) take the time to read posts and comment thoughtfully,vand blog hops are a quick way to find other blogs of intrest. you probably won't get as many followers when you are just typing "hey follow me and I'll follow you!" but you do get less "follow me for great deals!" comments. When I don't have the time to comment more thoughtfully, I always tell a blogger that I'll be back, then I favorite their page and return later as promised. (I'm finding that I have to do that as I gain followers. :)

The e-mail was uncalled for. Whenever I get a comment like that, or an ad, I ignore and move on. Anyhow, wonderful post, and additional great ideas for blog hoppers! :)

Katie said...

I'll stop by your hop! :) I love non coupon hops!

Andrea Johnson Beck said...

I am not a fan of all the coupon/give away blogs but I have a couple friends who do them so I try not to say too much about them. However, it sounds like she is taking it a little too seriously. Blogging should be fun and personal. I do try to say something about a post when I am a newbie on a blog but some of these hops are crazy. I'm cool with rules but some are like a page long ha!

Laprochaine said...

I think you just peeked into my head and wrote what I've been dying to say for some time now. My blog has a lot of personal posts. I also host the occasional giveaway and if I see a super neat freebie I will tell folks about it. Mostly my blog is about raising my Little Bit. Some of my favorite people I have found through blog hops. Your site included. I also get a ton of hey I'm following you follow me back comments. I try to leave a thoughtful comment to every person who visits my blog. That's what blogging is all about. Building an online community. Reaching out when you are a stay at home Mom and you need friends to connect with. I so badly want to email every person back who leaves me a cut and paste message and tell them just how rude they are being. I'm not going to click on their banners so they can make money off of me. They share nothing personal. It's all a business and that is really sad. Now I'm rambling but you really did peek into my brain for this one. Have a blessed day and thanks for the post. I really needed to vent ;D

IdahoAtHeart said...

THanks for sharing this post. I am new to blog hopping and don't do it often but I have never thought that my comments might be considered rude. I'm glad you mentioned it because I know I could do better. I try to read their posts but don't always mention anything in them when tell them I am a new follower. I will try to do better when I blog hop. Thanks.
Lacie
www.IdahoAtHeart.blogspot.com

Pretty in Pink Gloss said...

I have a blogging pet peeve! If i get three followers from a hop and I don't have time that day to follow back, by the next day at least two of them have deleted themselves as followers. It's like wait a minute give me a chance. I will follow back by the next day. I think that is extremely rude and it is happening a lot! Also, I am starting to notice that bloggers will hop, follow three blogs and when they get that follow back they delete themselves from those blogs. So they still get the followers but there cheating and sneakily unfollowing after they get the followers, if that made any sense at all. Wooh, to much time at home surrounded by poop and toys.

Jenn @ I Am Not Superwoman said...

I always comment pertaining to the post I am on when blog hopping and hopefully get the same respect. I don't like when it is following you, follow me. Good post!

RantRaveRoll said...

This is a good point. I often feel guilty if I visit a blog and don't leave a comment. Sometimes I may have to search through a few post to find one that interests me enough to comment though. Like most of us I like my visitors to comment when they visit me as well.

Crystal Jigsaw said...

Totally in agreement. I wrote a blog post not long ago covering something similar to what you're saying here. I love getting new followers, just like everybody else, and I am really grateful for comments. But you're right, when you spend a long time writing a heartfelt post only to have someone comment "I'm following you, follow me back etc" you feel as though you are actually being told you HAVE to follow that person back or they will come back to your blog and remove themselves from your followers list. It makes for a very boring blog hop in my opinion. I'll be honest with you, I get at least one or two comments of this nature of every blog post I publish. It doesn't bother me anymore but it used to. I love blog hops and have found some great new blogs to read and also gained many followers through hopping. But I am aware that a lot of the followers I've gained are just following for a follow back. It's a very sad way to conduct a blog in my opinion.

Great post. CJ xx

Heather from MOHTH said...

Is that one where you share your blog posts/stories? I like that hop!!! Is it always on fridays? You should add it to my hop directory! http://mommyonlyhastwohands.blogspot.com/p/hop-directory.html

Elle said...

Good idea. Now tell me how to do that LOL. Not really. I'll get to it eventually. Thanks though for saying it. It is a really good point.

anisha naulls said...

I think we all can be found guilty of this!!!! I guess sometimes sweet and simple are not wanted!!!! BTW, I'm following you from Thursdays Cafe! I read your bio section and sounds like we have some similarities, I'm looking forward to your posts!

Kirsten said...

How right you are. I've recently stopped participating in blog hops for a couple reasons. Sure they're great for gaining followers, but what's the point if these new followers never return to your site or actually READ your posts?

Also, I hate those obvious, "I'm following you, now you follow me" comments (which, in haste, we've all been guilty of a couple times), but I feel like since the point of the hop is just that, it's hypocritical to join without expecting such comments!

Thank you for posting this- it brought to light the fact that many others feel the same way as I do!!

TexaGermaNadian said...

That's the one! :) It is the last weekend of every month, i didn't want to over do it at the beginning. I would love to add it to your hop directory! Thanks Heather!

Missy said...

I only follow blogs that I will actually invest time in to read. And I hate when people tell me that they are now following and want me to follow back, because they will never come back to my blog and read it again.

Warren Baldwin said...

Many of us don't think about blog etiquette, but we certainly feel it if it isn't practiced toward us. I've written serious (to me) blog posts and have had the occasional comment, "I'm following, follow back." And, I've seen those same people do it on other blogs. One time the blog article was about an illness, and this is the comment the guy left. Poor taste. And, a very good article to call our attention to it.

Also, thought I'd mention to you that your link does not appear on your picture when you follow a blog. If you click on someone's picture in your follow gdget, you'll see that most of them have a link that you can follow back to their blog. If you want to have that on your picture, you can go to my blog (Family Fountain), click on your picture, then go to the upper right corner and click on "settings." Then, you can put your blog link in there.

wb

Heather from MOHTH said...

I will check on that, thanks for telling me warren.

Mama Spaghetti said...

Thanks for sharing! I haven't done many blog hops, but have thought about doing it. What always stops me is exactly what you (and the other commenters) are talking about: I don't want to just follow/follow back and not make any meaningful connections with people. I want to find blogs to read, but also find people to converse with and share with!

I wish it was easier to do THAT!

Heather from MOHTH said...

Thank you so much for telling me about this. I've had conflicts with blogger where my picture wouldn't show up when I followed someone and I had to essentially create a new google account because nothing would show up when I followed anyone. I didn't realize you could edit that section and add your URL there. Thank you!

Shanimalscrackers said...

Since all of my comments need to be approved before being published, I simply delete comments that have nothing to do with my post. If they're just promoting their website, then I don't even check out their blog to follow them back. I mean, I don't think I'm being too harsh. I just want people to read my stuff, dang it!

Tracy said...

Hi Heather!
I enjoyed this post very much and am in agreement with you! When I first started blogging last June, I had no idea what I was doing, so I joined lots of blog hops to get followers and to get my blog out there. I am guilty of leaving quick comments when I first started blogging that may or may not have pertained to the post. But I quickly realized that if all bloggers work as hard on their blog and posts as I do, then leaving comments that just say, "I'm following you, follow me back," is not a meaningful way to show appreciation for someone's hard work and thoughts.
The blog hop I co-host with Lynda and Anna-Marie, No Ordinary Blog Hop (NOBH), was started because we wanted to start a hop where blog posts were read and to encourage others to leave comments that were supportive of the post. Yes, it takes more time to really read a post and leave a comment that pertains to what was written. But, I have really enjoyed meeting new bloggers and getting to know bloggers. I also respond to each blog comment I get on my blog posts as a way to show my appreciation for having people come by and comment on my post. BTW, thanks for joining in on NOBH, great to see you linked up! I hope you will find NOBH a "no ordinary blog hop" and a place to get to really know other bloggers and find support for your blog posts.

Bridget Moore said...

I'm new to blogging and just learned what hopping was yesterday:) Someone put a comment like that on one of my posts, but I checked out her blog anyway. I can't even figure out what it's about!! Such a new world to me!! I saw you on mommyblogs and the title of this post intrigued me. I do networked blogs as well so I will link to that:) Thanks for the insight! Bridget from www.bumluxury.blogspot.com

Laura Adams said...

I mostly agree with you, but if that person was part of a blog hop, then that's rude on their part not to take the comment at face value and move on. Sometimes we find great blogs that we loyally follow and read. Other times, it's just a matter of helping one another grow your numbers. Either way, there is a benefit to both.

That being said, I think you have a cute blog and I'll definitely stop back. If you'd like, I'd love for you to stop by amomcandream.blogspot.com and see what you think. :)

Have a great day!

Michelle said...

I found your blog through the rude bloggers bloghop, hope you follow back. http://msaunderson.blogspot.com

Just kidding! I think that there are some bloggers that are too sensitve. I try to comment on every post I read, but sometimes I just have nothing to say because the post doesn't interest me.

DaenelT said...

I also am not a big fan of the "I'm following your blog, please follow back" comments. Tell me why you're following my blog, say something relevant to my post or, at the very least, tell me why I should follow your blog. Give me something... This is also why I don't participate in the 31 DBBB or Commenting Challenges very often. I've found that people will comment, follow, etc. as long as the challenge is on going but I never hear from then again once the challenge ends.

XLMIC said...

I so hear you on this. I don't participate in many hops for this reason. I also want people to follow my blog because they enjoy reading it... at least once in a while :P And I only want to follow blogs that I find interesting.

Heather from MOHTH said...

Good point Laura!

Nikki said...

Sometimes I do the quickie "I'm following you from the blah blah blog hop," but I don't like to ask people to follow me back. I'm shy about that. I may say "stop by if you get a chance" and leave my link. I do always try to find something to say about the post, but on the other hand, I don't mind if people do the drive-by hopping post on my blog. I know people are busy and when you're trying to visit dozens of blogs in one day, it can be difficult to leave a long, relevant comment. I'm a pretty easy-going blogger!

Mrs. White said...

I'm following you now. I hope you will follow me back!

Okay, I'm just kidding. . . [Kind of]. . . (smiles) This is a wonderful post and so true. We really need to take a few minutes to read the blog post and show kindness by sharing a nice thought or comment before mentioning the following plan.

Thank you for this!

PS - I really am following you now, and would love to have you follow me back. Hope you have a great weekend!

Mrs. White
The Legacy of Home
http://thelegacyofhome.blogspot.com

Mimi said...

For me, when I visit a blog, espeically a blog hop, I try to leave relevant comments. Last year I did a HUGE one and all I got back for comments were "Hi have a good day" kind of comment. I didn't get thru nearly as many blogs as most people, but that's because I was leaving thoughtful comments. Not sure how they'd feel if I did the same. I'd feel terrible tho if I did!

Stephanie (MomKaboodle) said...

Argh, the thoughtless comments can be so annoying!

That being said, there are times where I'll read a great post and just don't have the time to comment as I'd like to....so I don't say anything. I sometimes wonder if it's WORSE to do that, only because some of us sit there wondering if anybody's actually READING our blogs, or are we just talking to ourselves in the blogosphere?

I agree with you though, when participating in blog hops you don't always find that the post that was linked to the hop INSPIRES a great comment. In that case, I'll try another one of their posts and hope that I can find something nice to say. =)

Andrea B. said...

I think when you participate in blog hops you should know that you may end up with these kinds of comments. And if you at least told me where you came from I'd be happy with that. ie: I found you via the MBC email and post, etc. But that's not all I'll say. I do like to know where people find me, though, so I'm cool w/that. But I don't love the "following/follow me" comments because it's kind of like, well, great, that's it then, ey? Nothing else to say? Anyway, I enjoyed this post - in case you couldn't tell!

Christy @morethanmommy said...

I guess I've never done a blog hop because I read what you wrote as incredibly rude (I would have deleted it, too). I thought a blog hop was just where you visit different blogs and comment only if something spoke to you, so I guess I have learned something new today. I would say this, though. If you really want someone to start following you, you should probably say something more compelling than "follow me." I follow other bloggers because I'm interested in what they have to say. I would think that, even with a blog hop, saying nothing is better than leaving spam.

As for her email, hopefully it wasn't rude. If I delete a comment from my blog for reasons that my not be obvious to the person that left it, I always let them know.

Dawn said...

This is a great post, I am also not a big fan of the demanding sounding follow backs.. at least say hi, thanks or nice blog.. I think that would speak volumes!

I don't want to be controversial in any way but regarding coupon, deal, shopping or giveaway blogs.. I would be remiss if I didn't say a few comments here don't bother me...they come off negatively and can be hurtful. Its not the first time I've seen bloggers make references like that.. believe it or not we have feelings too and many of us put a lot of work in to share information and do enjoy heartfelt comments on our work, just like everyone else. We can be passionate about what we do even though to you may not personally relate...many of us enjoy helping people in our own way.

At the end of the day we all have one thing in common, we want to be noticed, appreciated and know for sure that someone enjoys what we are doing/posting/offering.

Heather from MOHTH said...

I agree with this. No matter what you blog about, you deserve a good heart felt comment on a post. I have nothing really against "deal" blogs and I do like to know if there are some great deals out there and totally appreciate knowing about it, but sometimes a blog about a payless shoe deal will only interest those seeking to by shoes. So If I'm to leave a comment, I guess I could say nice shoes or I could just not follow that blog. But I want to be supportive as best I can without being rude.

Yakini @ThePrissyMommy said...

This is such an awesome post! I think many of us are guilty of just quickly scanning a blog post, rather than taking the time really read what it's about. But I really respect your honesty and candor in sharing this story, as most of us aren't reflective enough to point out where we're wrong.

With that said (now I feel so dirty asking this- hehehe), I follow you on GFC and Networked blogs, would love for you to follow me back on my newest blog http://StyleMePrissy.com

Nikki Salisbury said...

I must say that I disagree with your post. I think this is what is wrong with blogging today. It's gone from being something people really want to do to just being about how many followers you have. It's so superficial. When I participate in blog hops I only follow people who I want to read and I don't expect them to follow me back. If they enjoy my blog and want to follow me, I'm happy about that. But I would rather have 20 followers who regularly read my blog instead of 200 followers who have no interest in what I have to say, but just want me to follow back.

Kim said...

Very interesting post! I'm always torn when I get the "Follow me back" message; what if I don't want to? I really don't want to hurt someone's feelings but I don't want my reader bogged down with blogs I'm not interested in. That being said, I don't consider these comments rude per se. Sometimes I'll monitor a blog for a bit before committing to following; if I like the content, and the blogger who "followed" me in the first place is actively participating in my blog, then I'll go back and follow them.

I do like to say something when I visit a blog from a hop, even if they're content isn't for me or I'm not going to follow. I find something from the post to mention, and then invite them to visit my blog, not follow, just visit, and I make sure to include my URL. It seems to work; maybe not dozens of followers, but ones that really want to be there.

Heather from MOHTH said...

Well Nikki there is some competition in blogging these days having 20 followers certainly won't let you get the product reviews you are seeking if you are a reviewer like I am. Companies want to know how many subscribers, followers, fans etc you have and if your alexa ranking isn't in the thousands, then you aren't even considered. My blog has become sort of my side business and it succeeds by getting new followers. So I would say that with a blog like yours you probably blog on a more personal level, this is fine I did it for years before I ventured into the mommy blogging world with product reviews, which honestly is why I join blog hops. This how ever doesn't mean I don't enjoy reading amazing posts. There are so many awesome bloggers out there I really really do want to get to know, but I also want to grow my blogging business too.

Heather from MOHTH said...

I also have to say I have made some awesome friends in the blogging world of whom I've hosted hops with, giveaways with and its a great realm to be in...it just sometimes needs a little etiquette, when we all get hungry for more followers.

Usedtobeme . said...

I have the same peeve. Even if the post being commented on is a fluff post that I cannot relate to, I'll mention something about it. I also don't ask people to follow me back. I just say I found you on blah. Nice to meet you by the way.

Katrina@TheyAllCallMeMom said...

I am new to the blog hops, and I understand what you are saying here. Before I started "hopping" around, the few comments I got on my blog were actually about my post. It was nice. Now, I am getting the short: "Hi...following you, please follow me" comments, and they are very impersonal. I don't know if I'd call them rude only because, well...I participated in a blog hop where the idea of that is getting people to look at your blog and hopefully grow you reader audience. Everyone in a hop is trying to do that, so I guess I don't fault them for being quick to the point. For many, this is a business. And for some (like me) this started out as something just for enjoyment, but they are trying to grow their audience so that hopefully one day they might make an income from doing something they love. I really, really LOVE blogging. I believe I've found my passion (besides my kids -- well wait, I blog about my kids...so I guess I've combined my two passions! how about that!) When you can make an income doing something you love, it's a win-win situation. So for me...I try not to take it personal when people leave short comments just trying to gain a follower. It's a numbers thing: the more followers you have listed, the more companies will want to advertise with your or have you do product reviews. And I get that. So when someone follows me and asked me to return the favor...I do. If I like the blog, then I save it to my "favorites" file on my computer so that I can check on the blog from time to time for updates. I figure other people do the same to mine. If my blog isn't interesting to someone, but yet they sign up as a follower and never return...that still adds to my follower list and will increase my chances of getting product reviews or advertisers someday...if I should decide to go that route. I know that the reader stats are also looked at, but I find that according to my readers stats, I have WAY more people reading my blog and NOT commenting than I have listed "followers". So it's all good :)

Michelle Parrott said...

I totally agree. I find myself doing the same. How bad do I feel afterwards :( Just so you know - I'm a huge fan of your blog! I've nominated you for the stylish blog award :) you can check out the details on my blog!
www.jandmparrott.blogspot.com

Mama Track said...

I agree. It's frustrating.

I'm here from Fledgling Friday--good luck!

NCSue said...

Thank you for the reminder to be a courteous hopper. It's easy to get tied up in the quest for followers, but you're right, that's rude.

That said...

I have a page devoted to hops for every day of the week. Go to the top of my sidebar for links to these pages:
Blog Hops For Every Day Of The Week!
Help make the world a better place!,
How to help earthquake/ tsunami victims in Japan

And I promise to donate $2 to Japan relief efforts for each new Google Friend Connect Follower of my blog throughout the remainder of March!

Have a great week!

NCSue
http://acts17verse28.blogspot.com/

Chubby Cheeks Thinks said...

I totally agree with you...however, you made the point that bloggers should post a short blurb about the hop they joined up on. I think I am the opposite of a lot of people. If I get a comment that someone if following and there is nothing about my current post, I don't mind at all. Some people want to read it and some people don't....I don't take offense to that. If I signed up or am hosting a blog hop, that is just what it is. A hop. Hops are supposed to be quick. This way you get to see different blogs and gain new followers. I also bookmark blogs that are of interest to me so I can stop back later. But in all honesty, I kind of get confused as to why people get so angry if the comment doesn't say anything about what is in the current post. With that being said, I always try to write something about the post just like you.

There are also hops that are dedicated to thoughtful posts. Ones that are to gain more comments on specific posts...not just followers. And those I only link up for if I have a slow day with the kids and have time to go through posts. I think it's different with each blogger but I don't think you should have received an angry comment about it regardless of the situation. And if she was going to delete your comment then do it...no mean email stating it. I think that is more rude then a thoughtless comment. Just my opinion though! LOL :)

Heather from MOHTH said...

Yeah I pretty much agree with that. Its kinda like you get what you sign up for. A hop is just that, gaining more followers unless the hop states something different like you said.

Kasie said...

great post!! I have a coupon blog lol but no offense taken cause thee really isnt much to comment on in those unless ur a couponer lol. But from time to time I do post a personal story. for example my post before the blog hop is of my daughter who was recently granted her wish from make a wish :) but i totally agree with u on this post :) Thanks for stopping by and wanted to let you know that ur blog is super cute and love the colors :) Have a blessed Saturday!

sheena@sophistishe.com said...

The same has happened to me recently. A blogger hit a random post and said she's following from Friendly Friday. I followed her back, but deleted her comment :-/. That said, I'm following you on GFC and your FB fanpage. Hope you don't take offense to this, but the font you're using is kind of hard to read :).

Heather from MOHTH said...

Oh I'm sorry about my font. I will try to find a different one to use, I really don't like the typical ones out there. I like to be different. I'll look for a more readable one. I think this was different enough, but that you could still read it since it wasn't cursive. The cursive ones I can't read at all. Thanks for telling me, and I don't take offense. Creative Fonts are not everyone's bag of tea and it is hard to find a font everyone will like.

Sara garcia said...

This is some great advice for newcomer to the blogging world! It can be intimidating trying to write a comment on a blog without being too self promoting. I've had some trouble with this and since I'm new to this, I welcome any advice!

I'm following you from blog hop weekend and thank you for visiting my blog and leaving a comment. I get so excited when I get followers and comments :)

Melissa said...

I enjoyed reading this. I have come across those deal blogs, and it is difficult for me to leave a good comment. Most of the blogs I visit have something pretty cool in them about crafts, their life, or fashion, so it's easy. I'm following you back. Just thought I'd read a little too! Thanks for your comments on my Lady Gaga concert. I would have much preferred Pink, honestly, but marriage is compromise. :)

Connie said...

I have the same problem with deal blogs. Especially if they focus on items I don't even buy. I just skip them. Probably rude, but I assume people do the same when they hit mine and it doesn't fit them.

Sweeping Me said...

I could not agree with you more. I try to do the same leave a comment about their post. Sometimes it is hard to do. Sometimes you are in a hurry. One of my peeves is someone leaving an "I'm Following You" on a giveaway...All I can say to that is WTF (Freak) no cursing. Thanks for the post. I am following you..But I have been. I just recently signed up for the news letter.


Mary/Sweeping Me

Amy said...

hi there. 1) I am also a leo (though I'd probably be your mom's age -- I am 52) 2) My husband Excy grew up mainly in Prescott and I loved visiting -- do you like living in Flagstaff? 3) thanks for your comment on my blog . I am still having trouble thinking about the poor horse and wondering where it ended up -- and how. People dump animals on our mt all the time -- I have found homes for 29 cats and 6 dogs the past 19 years...4) boy -- you have so many folllowers -- how do you do it? I have been blogging for 2 years now. Thanks, take care

Heather from MOHTH said...

Hi Amy! Yeah my mother is around the same age. I love living in Flagstaff, far enough away from the chaotic Phoenix, but close enough to visit friends. I grew up in Phoenix. That is too sad to know that a horse with a broken leg is just stuck somewhere. Breaks my heart too!! Sounds like you are an animals best friend. Thanks for all the work you do saving animals! Oh yeah, I get a lot of followers by participating and hosting blog hops. Not to mention joining mommy blogging forums like Bloggy Moms, or Mom Blog Network. You can find those buttons scrolling up on my right sidebar.

Have a great day!

Heather

Cathy Kennedy said...

I hear what you're saying, but you know I had never quite thought of it as rude. I get the same quickie comments and just think, "Okay she didn't mention my post, but that's okay maybe she's in a hurry today and another time she'll have more to say."

We all should follow our own convictions when leaving comments, but you know if someone makes a point to email you to say, your comment wasn't good enough then what does that say about that person? Isn't that being rude intentionally?

Thinking about this and my own personally experiences with people not leaving much of a comment is always try to take the high road. I visit their blog and most of the time I try to leave a nice comment despite their short follow me plea. Am I guilty of doing this? Yep, I'm afraid I am.

However, given your experience then I'm going to think twice about how I handle leaving comments for those blogs I just can't relate to you, such as yourself. Good points and something for me to ponder on. Incidentally, I'm following you from the Feeding Four Wednesday blog hop.

~Cathy Kennedy, Children's Author
The Tale of Ole Green Eyes

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TexaGermaNadian said...

I totally agree with you on this one. I can't stand the hops that have you going from one useless coupon site to another. But at the same time, even if someone has left me a "follow me, now follow you" kind of thing, I would never be rude back to them. That was a bit tasteless of this person. I don't play the whole follow me and I'll follow you game (as I know you don't either, like you said, it was a hasty post), but some people do. They know I will not come back and follow them, and since they have no idea who I am or what I write about, I could care less. I'll just chalk it up to one more follower!
I am sorry she was such a meanie. Forget her, and just keep posting on your great blog! BTW, I am having a hop tomorrow and Saturday that specifically doesn't include coupon/ad sites. Would love for you and one of your stories to stop by! :)

Hockey Wife Tales said...

I am with you. I never will ask for a follow back when I leave a comment, as I don't like it when I am on the receiving end. Once in a while I will give them a link...only if my post relates to their post. I figure, if they want to see my blog...they will click on my icon and see it that way. I would never want a follow just because of the "I follow you, you follow me." idea. I want people who actually want to see what I have to say.

I too am not a fan of coupon, review and giveaway blogs....so I never follow those!

One last thing...I always like to look at t he about me section...this gives a good feel for the blogger I am reading about.

Thanks for the great post!

Cheers!

Katie said...

This is a great post! I was actually going to stop doing blog hops altogether (even made a post on SITS about it) When I realized that genuine bloggers (you included!) take the time to read posts and comment thoughtfully,vand blog hops are a quick way to find other blogs of intrest. you probably won't get as many followers when you are just typing "hey follow me and I'll follow you!" but you do get less "follow me for great deals!" comments. When I don't have the time to comment more thoughtfully, I always tell a blogger that I'll be back, then I favorite their page and return later as promised. (I'm finding that I have to do that as I gain followers. :)

The e-mail was uncalled for. Whenever I get a comment like that, or an ad, I ignore and move on. Anyhow, wonderful post, and additional great ideas for blog hoppers! :)

Andrea Johnson Beck said...

I am not a fan of all the coupon/give away blogs but I have a couple friends who do them so I try not to say too much about them. However, it sounds like she is taking it a little too seriously. Blogging should be fun and personal. I do try to say something about a post when I am a newbie on a blog but some of these hops are crazy. I'm cool with rules but some are like a page long ha!

Laprochaine said...

I think you just peeked into my head and wrote what I've been dying to say for some time now. My blog has a lot of personal posts. I also host the occasional giveaway and if I see a super neat freebie I will tell folks about it. Mostly my blog is about raising my Little Bit. Some of my favorite people I have found through blog hops. Your site included. I also get a ton of hey I'm following you follow me back comments. I try to leave a thoughtful comment to every person who visits my blog. That's what blogging is all about. Building an online community. Reaching out when you are a stay at home Mom and you need friends to connect with. I so badly want to email every person back who leaves me a cut and paste message and tell them just how rude they are being. I'm not going to click on their banners so they can make money off of me. They share nothing personal. It's all a business and that is really sad. Now I'm rambling but you really did peek into my brain for this one. Have a blessed day and thanks for the post. I really needed to vent ;D

Pretty in Pink Gloss said...

I have a blogging pet peeve! If i get three followers from a hop and I don't have time that day to follow back, by the next day at least two of them have deleted themselves as followers. It's like wait a minute give me a chance. I will follow back by the next day. I think that is extremely rude and it is happening a lot! Also, I am starting to notice that bloggers will hop, follow three blogs and when they get that follow back they delete themselves from those blogs. So they still get the followers but there cheating and sneakily unfollowing after they get the followers, if that made any sense at all. Wooh, to much time at home surrounded by poop and toys.

Jenn @ I Am Not Superwoman said...

I always comment pertaining to the post I am on when blog hopping and hopefully get the same respect. I don't like when it is following you, follow me. Good post!

RantRaveRoll said...

This is a good point. I often feel guilty if I visit a blog and don't leave a comment. Sometimes I may have to search through a few post to find one that interests me enough to comment though. Like most of us I like my visitors to comment when they visit me as well.

Heather said...

Is that one where you share your blog posts/stories? I like that hop!!! Is it always on fridays? You should add it to my hop directory! http://mommyonlyhastwohands.blogspot.com/p/hop-directory.html

Elle said...

Good idea. Now tell me how to do that LOL. Not really. I'll get to it eventually. Thanks though for saying it. It is a really good point.

anisha naulls said...

I think we all can be found guilty of this!!!! I guess sometimes sweet and simple are not wanted!!!! BTW, I'm following you from Thursdays Cafe! I read your bio section and sounds like we have some similarities, I'm looking forward to your posts!

Kirsten said...

How right you are. I've recently stopped participating in blog hops for a couple reasons. Sure they're great for gaining followers, but what's the point if these new followers never return to your site or actually READ your posts?

Also, I hate those obvious, "I'm following you, now you follow me" comments (which, in haste, we've all been guilty of a couple times), but I feel like since the point of the hop is just that, it's hypocritical to join without expecting such comments!

Thank you for posting this- it brought to light the fact that many others feel the same way as I do!!

TexaGermaNadian said...

That's the one! :) It is the last weekend of every month, i didn't want to over do it at the beginning. I would love to add it to your hop directory! Thanks Heather!

Missy said...

I only follow blogs that I will actually invest time in to read. And I hate when people tell me that they are now following and want me to follow back, because they will never come back to my blog and read it again.

Warren Baldwin said...

Many of us don't think about blog etiquette, but we certainly feel it if it isn't practiced toward us. I've written serious (to me) blog posts and have had the occasional comment, "I'm following, follow back." And, I've seen those same people do it on other blogs. One time the blog article was about an illness, and this is the comment the guy left. Poor taste. And, a very good article to call our attention to it.

Also, thought I'd mention to you that your link does not appear on your picture when you follow a blog. If you click on someone's picture in your follow gdget, you'll see that most of them have a link that you can follow back to their blog. If you want to have that on your picture, you can go to my blog (Family Fountain), click on your picture, then go to the upper right corner and click on "settings." Then, you can put your blog link in there.

wb

Heather said...

I will check on that, thanks for telling me Warren.

Mama Spaghetti said...

Thanks for sharing! I haven't done many blog hops, but have thought about doing it. What always stops me is exactly what you (and the other commenters) are talking about: I don't want to just follow/follow back and not make any meaningful connections with people. I want to find blogs to read, but also find people to converse with and share with!

I wish it was easier to do THAT!

Heather said...

Thank you so much for telling me about this. I've had conflicts with blogger where my picture wouldn't show up when I followed someone and I had to essentially create a new google account because nothing would show up when I followed anyone. I didn't realize you could edit that section and add your URL there. Thank you!

Shanimalscrackers said...

Since all of my comments need to be approved before being published, I simply delete comments that have nothing to do with my post. If they're just promoting their website, then I don't even check out their blog to follow them back. I mean, I don't think I'm being too harsh. I just want people to read my stuff, dang it!

Bridget Moore said...

I'm new to blogging and just learned what hopping was yesterday:) Someone put a comment like that on one of my posts, but I checked out her blog anyway. I can't even figure out what it's about!! Such a new world to me!! I saw you on mommyblogs and the title of this post intrigued me. I do networked blogs as well so I will link to that:) Thanks for the insight! Bridget from www.bumluxury.blogspot.com

Laura Adams said...

I mostly agree with you, but if that person was part of a blog hop, then that's rude on their part not to take the comment at face value and move on. Sometimes we find great blogs that we loyally follow and read. Other times, it's just a matter of helping one another grow your numbers. Either way, there is a benefit to both.

That being said, I think you have a cute blog and I'll definitely stop back. If you'd like, I'd love for you to stop by amomcandream.blogspot.com and see what you think. :)

Have a great day!

Michelle said...

I found your blog through the rude bloggers bloghop, hope you follow back. http://msaunderson.blogspot.com

Just kidding! I think that there are some bloggers that are too sensitve. I try to comment on every post I read, but sometimes I just have nothing to say because the post doesn't interest me.

XLMIC said...

I so hear you on this. I don't participate in many hops for this reason. I also want people to follow my blog because they enjoy reading it... at least once in a while :P And I only want to follow blogs that I find interesting.

Heather said...

Good point Laura!

Nikki said...

Sometimes I do the quickie "I'm following you from the blah blah blog hop," but I don't like to ask people to follow me back. I'm shy about that. I may say "stop by if you get a chance" and leave my link. I do always try to find something to say about the post, but on the other hand, I don't mind if people do the drive-by hopping post on my blog. I know people are busy and when you're trying to visit dozens of blogs in one day, it can be difficult to leave a long, relevant comment. I'm a pretty easy-going blogger!

Mrs. White said...

I'm following you now. I hope you will follow me back!

Okay, I'm just kidding. . . [Kind of]. . . (smiles) This is a wonderful post and so true. We really need to take a few minutes to read the blog post and show kindness by sharing a nice thought or comment before mentioning the following plan.

Thank you for this!

PS - I really am following you now, and would love to have you follow me back. Hope you have a great weekend!

Mrs. White
The Legacy of Home
http://thelegacyofhome.blogspot.com

Mimi said...

For me, when I visit a blog, espeically a blog hop, I try to leave relevant comments. Last year I did a HUGE one and all I got back for comments were "Hi have a good day" kind of comment. I didn't get thru nearly as many blogs as most people, but that's because I was leaving thoughtful comments. Not sure how they'd feel if I did the same. I'd feel terrible tho if I did!

Stephanie (MomKaboodle) said...

Argh, the thoughtless comments can be so annoying!

That being said, there are times where I'll read a great post and just don't have the time to comment as I'd like to....so I don't say anything. I sometimes wonder if it's WORSE to do that, only because some of us sit there wondering if anybody's actually READING our blogs, or are we just talking to ourselves in the blogosphere?

I agree with you though, when participating in blog hops you don't always find that the post that was linked to the hop INSPIRES a great comment. In that case, I'll try another one of their posts and hope that I can find something nice to say. =)

Andrea B. said...

I think when you participate in blog hops you should know that you may end up with these kinds of comments. And if you at least told me where you came from I'd be happy with that. ie: I found you via the MBC email and post, etc. But that's not all I'll say. I do like to know where people find me, though, so I'm cool w/that. But I don't love the "following/follow me" comments because it's kind of like, well, great, that's it then, ey? Nothing else to say? Anyway, I enjoyed this post - in case you couldn't tell!

Heather said...

I agree with this. No matter what you blog about, you deserve a good heart felt comment on a post. I have nothing really against "deal" blogs and I do like to know if there are some great deals out there and totally appreciate knowing about it, but sometimes a blog about a payless shoe deal will only interest those seeking to by shoes. So If I'm to leave a comment, I guess I could say nice shoes or I could just not follow that blog. But I want to be supportive as best I can without being rude.

Dawn said...

This is a great post, I am also not a big fan of the demanding sounding follow backs.. at least say hi, thanks or nice blog.. I think that would speak volumes!

I don't want to be controversial in any way but regarding coupon, deal, shopping or giveaway blogs.. I would be remiss if I didn't say a few comments here don't bother me...they come off negatively and can be hurtful. Its not the first time I've seen bloggers make references like that.. believe it or not we have feelings too and many of us put a lot of work in to share information and do enjoy heartfelt comments on our work, just like everyone else. We can be passionate about what we do even though to you may not personally relate...many of us enjoy helping people in our own way.

At the end of the day we all have one thing in common, we want to be noticed, appreciated and know for sure that someone enjoys what we are doing/posting/offering.

Yakini @ThePrissyMommy said...

This is such an awesome post! I think many of us are guilty of just quickly scanning a blog post, rather than taking the time really read what it's about. But I really respect your honesty and candor in sharing this story, as most of us aren't reflective enough to point out where we're wrong.

With that said (now I feel so dirty asking this- hehehe), I follow you on GFC and Networked blogs, would love for you to follow me back on my newest blog http://StyleMePrissy.com

Nikki Salisbury said...

I must say that I disagree with your post. I think this is what is wrong with blogging today. It's gone from being something people really want to do to just being about how many followers you have. It's so superficial. When I participate in blog hops I only follow people who I want to read and I don't expect them to follow me back. If they enjoy my blog and want to follow me, I'm happy about that. But I would rather have 20 followers who regularly read my blog instead of 200 followers who have no interest in what I have to say, but just want me to follow back.

Kim said...

Very interesting post! I'm always torn when I get the "Follow me back" message; what if I don't want to? I really don't want to hurt someone's feelings but I don't want my reader bogged down with blogs I'm not interested in. That being said, I don't consider these comments rude per se. Sometimes I'll monitor a blog for a bit before committing to following; if I like the content, and the blogger who "followed" me in the first place is actively participating in my blog, then I'll go back and follow them.

I do like to say something when I visit a blog from a hop, even if they're content isn't for me or I'm not going to follow. I find something from the post to mention, and then invite them to visit my blog, not follow, just visit, and I make sure to include my URL. It seems to work; maybe not dozens of followers, but ones that really want to be there.

Heather said...

Well Nikki there is some competition in blogging these days having 20 followers certainly won't let you get the product reviews you are seeking if you are a reviewer like I am. Companies want to know how many subscribers, followers, fans etc you have and if your alexa ranking isn't in the thousands, then you aren't even considered. My blog has become sort of my side business and it succeeds by getting new followers. So I would say that with a blog like yours you probably blog on a more personal level, this is fine I did it for years before I ventured into the mommy blogging world with product reviews, which honestly is why I join blog hops. This how ever doesn't mean I don't enjoy reading amazing posts. There are so many awesome bloggers out there I really really do want to get to know, but I also want to grow my blogging business too.

Heather said...

I also have to say I have made some awesome friends in the blogging world of whom I've hosted hops with, giveaways with and its a great realm to be in...it just sometimes needs a little etiquette, when we all get hungry for more followers.

usedtobeme said...

I have the same peeve. Even if the post being commented on is a fluff post that I cannot relate to, I'll mention something about it. I also don't ask people to follow me back. I just say I found you on blah. Nice to meet you by the way.

Katrina@TheyAllCallMeMom said...

I am new to the blog hops, and I understand what you are saying here. Before I started "hopping" around, the few comments I got on my blog were actually about my post. It was nice. Now, I am getting the short: "Hi...following you, please follow me" comments, and they are very impersonal. I don't know if I'd call them rude only because, well...I participated in a blog hop where the idea of that is getting people to look at your blog and hopefully grow you reader audience. Everyone in a hop is trying to do that, so I guess I don't fault them for being quick to the point. For many, this is a business. And for some (like me) this started out as something just for enjoyment, but they are trying to grow their audience so that hopefully one day they might make an income from doing something they love. I really, really LOVE blogging. I believe I've found my passion (besides my kids -- well wait, I blog about my kids...so I guess I've combined my two passions! how about that!) When you can make an income doing something you love, it's a win-win situation. So for me...I try not to take it personal when people leave short comments just trying to gain a follower. It's a numbers thing: the more followers you have listed, the more companies will want to advertise with your or have you do product reviews. And I get that. So when someone follows me and asked me to return the favor...I do. If I like the blog, then I save it to my "favorites" file on my computer so that I can check on the blog from time to time for updates. I figure other people do the same to mine. If my blog isn't interesting to someone, but yet they sign up as a follower and never return...that still adds to my follower list and will increase my chances of getting product reviews or advertisers someday...if I should decide to go that route. I know that the reader stats are also looked at, but I find that according to my readers stats, I have WAY more people reading my blog and NOT commenting than I have listed "followers". So it's all good :)

Mama Track said...

I agree. It's frustrating.

I'm here from Fledgling Friday--good luck!

NCSue said...

Thank you for the reminder to be a courteous hopper. It's easy to get tied up in the quest for followers, but you're right, that's rude.

That said...

I have a page devoted to hops for every day of the week. Go to the top of my sidebar for links to these pages:
Blog Hops For Every Day Of The Week!
Help make the world a better place!,
How to help earthquake/ tsunami victims in Japan

And I promise to donate $2 to Japan relief efforts for each new Google Friend Connect Follower of my blog throughout the remainder of March!

Have a great week!

NCSue
http://acts17verse28.blogspot.com/

Chubby Cheeks Thinks said...

I totally agree with you...however, you made the point that bloggers should post a short blurb about the hop they joined up on. I think I am the opposite of a lot of people. If I get a comment that someone if following and there is nothing about my current post, I don't mind at all. Some people want to read it and some people don't....I don't take offense to that. If I signed up or am hosting a blog hop, that is just what it is. A hop. Hops are supposed to be quick. This way you get to see different blogs and gain new followers. I also bookmark blogs that are of interest to me so I can stop back later. But in all honesty, I kind of get confused as to why people get so angry if the comment doesn't say anything about what is in the current post. With that being said, I always try to write something about the post just like you.

There are also hops that are dedicated to thoughtful posts. Ones that are to gain more comments on specific posts...not just followers. And those I only link up for if I have a slow day with the kids and have time to go through posts. I think it's different with each blogger but I don't think you should have received an angry comment about it regardless of the situation. And if she was going to delete your comment then do it...no mean email stating it. I think that is more rude then a thoughtless comment. Just my opinion though! LOL :)

Heather said...

Yeah I pretty much agree with that. Its kinda like you get what you sign up for. A hop is just that, gaining more followers unless the hop states something different like you said.

Kasie said...

great post!! I have a coupon blog lol but no offense taken cause thee really isnt much to comment on in those unless ur a couponer lol. But from time to time I do post a personal story. for example my post before the blog hop is of my daughter who was recently granted her wish from make a wish :) but i totally agree with u on this post :) Thanks for stopping by and wanted to let you know that ur blog is super cute and love the colors :) Have a blessed Saturday!

Guest said...

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