My husband can be the hardest person to read sometimes, but he is truly a blessing to my life. He can be difficult and he can keep to himself, but he never fails at trying to show me that he loves me. People show their love in different ways and the way I show love to my husband is different than the way he shows love to me. Now over the years its been hard for me to understand him in regards to showing love and affection. But I've realized that the affection aspect of showing someone that you love them, can be really hard for some people.
There are apparently 5 languages of love and my husband is the "gift giver", while I am the physical touch person and "quality time" person. I actually think we are both words of affirmation people too, but sometimes we tend to talk, then misunderstand each other in the process. Both our feelings can get hurt easily. We are both emotional people.
Now I grew up feeling extreme humility and guilt any time someone gave me something. So much so, that I disliked receiving gifts from people for fear I could never return the favor or the sentiments, or that the sentiments wouldn't be received the way I wanted them to.
Anyway, where is my story leading? Its leading to the fact that any time I mention something that I'd like to get one day, or even if I want to save money for it, my husband goes ahead and gets it for me.
For example, I wanted to get this beautiful painting for the dinning room, and I eventually wanted to get a swing set for the kids, one that the kids could have friends over and there would be enough things to do on it that everyone could play. Without hesitation, Hunky Hubs just gets them. I had plans on saving up my own money to buy these items. I told him that too, but then out of no way he says he got them for us.
He's always been this way....from my ipad to just anything I wanted or needed, and trust me its great. I love it. But I do tend to feel a bit of guilt after receiving the lavish gift I should have earned some how. I suppose you could say all the work I do of raising kids and cooking meals and cleaning house is enough to earn it...but I sometimes just don't feel like that is enough. He comes home from work, I hear about the stresses of his job and while I can have some pretty stressful days as well, I can easily let the stress of the day melt off at the end of the night and start over fresh the next day. My husband's stress tends to build and leads to insomnia and many sleepless nights.
Anyway, I was telling Hunky Hubs how I wanted to get a bike so I could go for bike rides around the neighborhood. Now we just sold two bikes at our garage sale we had last weekend for ten bucks each. They both needed work, one needed a new chain and was rusty, but I just kinda wanted a new bike. So after telling him that I had one bookmarked online, he told me he bought it and just had to go get it. Now I have my early birthday present, but I totally wasn't expecting it for my birthday. After all we just bought a swing set.
But like a child on Christmas day, I rode it to the end of the street and back and felt like a kid again when I used to ride my bike all over the neighborhood. I eventually want to get a bike trailer or a kiddie seat so I can take one or both kids on bike rides with me. But for now I think I will get acquainted with going on a few bike rides by myself and getting some of that "me" time back that I talked about in my blog a few weeks ago. Bike riding is the perfect time to be alone with your thoughts and get some good exercise and I thank my husband soo much for that opportunity again!
Now I really have to learn what love language my husband speaks. ;) He can be a hard one to figure out. What love language does your significant other speak?
Wife, Mother of Two Boys, Coffee Addict, Pinterest obsessed, an aspiring writer balancing every day life of raising a family and blogging about it.