A New Perspective and a Chance To Mingle

I have had a few days to think about the last post I wrote, where I wrote about the frustrations of motherhood. But I really must explain. Since 2009 when my son was born I haven't spent one night away from him or his younger brother. I have gone out on 2 dates with my husband since then and I think we've been able to wrangle up a babysitter for a few concerts, as far away as Cottonwood, but had to hurry back at like 1 am to relieve babysitters (Aunties) from their duties.

I don't have a bad life. I don't. I just tend to not be able to "de-stress" when I need to and since I moved so far away from all my friends, I only have 1 friend I get together with and she's not a mom. She doesn't understand, she looks at me sometimes and thinks why are you complaining, you got a house, a husband, two kids....what is your problem?  And I sit there and think the same thing. "What is my problem?".

I did ask a while back from my husband for 2 hours a week to be without kids...it didn't last very long. I'm still unable to really get those two hours away per week. I don't really know how to obtain them. But maybe it just really isn't necessary...I feel like it is. But I'm probably asking too much and I don't mean that with any sarcasm. It probably is just too much to ask at this time. Maybe at a later time it will be easier to achieve.

So over the last couple of days when I was thinking when my husband and I would ever get to go on a date together or if the next time that happened would be in February, one of my readers comments made me do some investigating.

I joined a mom group! I didn't know how to find one in Flagstaff. I used to be a member of MOPS. Ok, well that's a lie I attended three MOPS meetings and quit going because at the time I couldn't  afford the $50 bucks to be a member nor did I feel like going door to door selling candles and I just was hoping the group would be more than sitting around a table playing bingo and going door to door selling stuff.  Anyway...this group I hope is different. I attend my first play group on Oct 23rd! I am super excited! It only cost $3 a month to be a member and I'm hoping I can make some friends that also will not religiously persecute my husband for staying home from church on Sundays to watch football for six months out of the year. ;)

On Oct 20th I am chopping my hair off!! Not all of it, but I'm hoping for a doo that looks something like this:

Short and choppy! And I'd love to go blonde, but I think you are supposed to go dark for the fall...and the blonde would probably be too much up keep. So I'm thinking red.  What do you think?


So in addition to that, I think I also tackled another family problem in a tactful way. I was totally loosing my mind over it. The kids have a grandmother that lives 5.1 miles away from us and hasn't seen the kids since August and I just didn't understand. Anytime you asked her why, she said it was due to gas prices. I sat there thinking, you live 5 miles away, that is not an excuse. So finally I got the calculator out and tired to do the math, then remembered I couldn't do math and found Road trip America's Fuel Cost Calculator. I looked up the exact mileage from her house to mine. It gave me three different routes to take and the most it was 5.3 miles and the least it was 5.1 miles, I just guessed that she got a lousy 13 miles to the gallon in her SUV and discovered it cost just $1.44 for her to drive to my house. So round trip that's $2.88 and I told  her if she could budget at least $5 bucks a month to drive over and see her grand kids that how much that hurt her pocketbook would hurt less then the memories she would be loosing out on. She finally saw my point.

She came over yesterday and together we all made and decorated cupcakes!!

A memory made!! Pictures taken and time spent with family!

Then on Wednesday, I took these amazing pictures of the kids in the back yard!! I am so stoked at how they turned out!! With my cell phone mind you!!!

What do you think?? 

I won't share all of them here. I'll save some for WW/My Life Via Instagram Link Up, but I think they turned out amazing! I would love a giant picture of the one with my two boys above, hanging in our entry way when you walk into the house!

Anyway, I am really hoping to meet and connect with some other moms, that are not apart of church. Not that I think church is a bad thing. I think its a great thing, but I need a different kind of atmosphere I think.

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Author: Heather
Wife, Mother of Two Boys, Coffee Addict, Pinterest obsessed, an aspiring writer balancing every day life of raising a family and blogging about it.

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